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When You See It, Say It
By Jacob Gibson, Ph.
D.
Your 7 year old clears the table, but leaves behind a bunch of crumbs.
Your teenager
mows the lawn, but misses a patch.
You ask your husband to buy some mascara, and
he gets the wrong kind.
How do you...
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When You See It, Say It
By Jacob Gibson, Ph.
D.
Your 7 year old clears the table, but leaves behind a bunch of crumbs.
Your teenager
mows the lawn, but misses a patch.
You ask your husband to buy some mascara, and
he gets the wrong kind.
How do you react? Is your first instinct to criticize or correct
them? Or do you praise the effort? Do you recognize the positive?
How many of you have heard a similar statement? “You never notice when I do
something right!” I have—both from my family and students I work with at West Ridge
Academy.
When I’m not in a defensive mood, I must admit that they are right.
I don’t
tell my children, my wife, or the girls on my caseload that I notice the positive things
they do often enough.
I know I recognize the positive things and think about how well
they are doing, but somehow I forget to tell them.
In those moments of realization, I
often recommit to do better and tell them more often.
Why is recognizing the positive so important to our relation
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